Inner Dynamics
VENUS/MARS
As Mars and Venus are the male and female archetypes, this combination brings a powerful need to resolve the dilemma between the sexes. Harmonious aspects show greater ease in this matter, but inharmonious contacts and the conjunction bring extremely difficult challenges. Often confusion about the sexual role stems from the impression given by the parents concerning their love-life, particularly if infidelity was involved. Women with this aspect often experience a strong contrast between the demands of femininity and those of sexuality, and in extreme cases the man is perceived as being a primitive only interested in sexual satisfaction. Actually the woman sends strong sexual signals but gets confused about the response she receives, not knowing whether to take the initiative, (ladies don't do that), or be passive. The paradox is that women with this aspect have strong masculine traits, and can resent the man taking the initiative. Men with this aspect will sometimes have rather feminine traits, and have difficulty taking the initiative.
Whatever the circumstances, the erotic life plays an important role in the character, and there is a strong tendency towards sexual involvements which can be a threat to stable relationships. There is in both sexes a difficulty in integrating the loving nature with passion and desire - when to be tender and affectionate, when to go your own way? When to be attached, when to be detached? When to be chaste, when to let the body take over? When a balance is found, then there is great potential to have enjoyable relationships on both the physical and spiritual level.
VENUS/JUPITER
You are an extremely loving and romantic person, and this brings both benefits and problems. Often you fall in love with love, and have difficulty settling into stable relationships because of your hunger for romance and emotional stimulation. You are however a great lover, and your attention makes your loved one blossom. There is a tendency to be attracted to a person who comes from a different culture or country - perhaps this is because of a need to widen your emotional horizons. There is a tendency to marry upwards in society. The most important value for you in a relationship is intellectual or cultural stimulation. You need to be able to respect your partner for his or her intelligence. A woman with this aspect has a great need for attention and appreciation, and particularly values the mental stimulation the partner can give. A man with this aspect has a great appetite for the opposite sex, and whilst intelligence is important, there is often a taste for exotic or good-looking women. Faithfulness may not be a strong point, though sooner or later there will be a tendency to tighten up moral values regarding love.
VENUS/SATURN
It is unlikely that you will be completely fulfilled in your love relationships during the first 30 years of your life. You may have a rather low sense of self-worth and a correspondingly low threshold of expectation as far as romance is concerned. You prefer to play it safe, having burned your fingers in your young days. You may be attracted to an older partner, who can provide structure and security in a relationship, although security of this kind can prove restrictive in the long run. Intimacy does not come easily to you because of a strong fear of rejection. You maintain a cool facade as a protective measure, though this only makes your world a little colder. As you get older you learn that it pays to be a little more vulnerable, it pays to take a risk with your emotions. First you need to build up a strong sense of personal self-worth. Then by showing your own feelings without demanding exaggerated demonstrations of love in return, you can create a safe space for the mutual exchange of love.
VENUS/URANUS
The major characteristic of your love-life is your need for excitement and the unpredictable, coupled with a restlessness which you feel when relationships do not offer you the opportunity for personal development. You have a tendency to form relationships to people from foreign countries, different cultures or unusual environments - in other words with a person who can bring an element of the exotic into your life. Often you can find yourself in a situation, in which you choose not to actually live together with a partner. Preferring to keep your independence - especially as regards the freedom to have your own friends - you maintain the excitement of romance by periodic meetings where you can constantly have your need for excitement fulfilled. In extreme cases you experience "airport-love" - short but exciting relationships with someone from another area of the world. In this way you avoid committing yourself emotionally. If you want a more permanent or stable relationship, or if you would like to feel more secure with your loved-one, it is essential to make a deeper emotional commitment.
VENUS/NEPTUNE
You are willing to make sacrifices for love, and as an incurable romantic you are skilled at creating circumstances for personal disappointment, either through poor
judgment regarding potential partners, or unrealistic expectations. You are looking for more than a worldly love - you need to feel as if your soul is touched by your partner, you need to feel a spiritual bond. To be happy in this area of your life you must understand and accept so-called imperfections in others. The perfect partner does not exist and you will never find him or her. It is important to choose an equal - not someone you
idealize or want to save - and it is important that the chosen one shares ideals and dreams which transcend conventional relationship needs. Unhappiness and dissatisfaction in love is actually the result of unconscious impressions from your distant past, and these feelings actually have a spiritual purpose now.
VENUS/PLUTO
Your intimate relationships are characterized by their intensity. You are simply not interested in a superficial or casual relationship. You have a tendency to invest a lot of energy into winning love and attention and this is actually a throwback to childhood experiences which equated love with survival. You will often feel that it is fate that has brought you and your partner together, and that nothing will break the bond that has been established. Unfortunately, an unconscious fear of losing love can result in many exhausting emotional scenes. Relationships can lurch from crisis to crisis. When these negative influences have been transformed you will discover a real talent for giving loving support to others.
VENUS/NODE
Magnetic attractions to specific people in your life can be extremely formative as regards your spiritual growth. The world of the senses, and the pleasures and pains of love will be a constant challenge and source of fascination for you. You may react by indulging in every pleasure which is offered to you, or you may reject the allure of sensory paradise, preferring purity and frugality. Your choice, and your values, may have a significance beyond the personal, profoundly affecting the spirit of your time.
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